Oh.

Oh.

I woke up this morning, and that was my first thought. It did not damper the lump in my throat or the wrenching feeling in my heart. I shut my phone on and off to make sure it wasn’t a glitch.

Donald Trump is President of the United States. How could we let this happen?

Good morning America! Oh wait, you’re an immigrant? Deported! Gay? We’re going to use your tax dollars to fund conversion therapy! Muslim? Watch list! This is the next four years, and we brought it upon ourselves.

When did we divide? It’s 2016, and we let an open racist, homophobic, xenophobic, sexist, misogynistic bigot to be our President. I’m not being rude, I’m telling the truth. And I am telling everyone right now, that this is a mistake. The repercussions that will last after his Presidency are going to be so detrimental to so many people, and we all let it happen.

I am ashamed that we let this happen. My tax dollars will be going towards LGBTQ+ conversion therapy. I want to get rid of it! He wants to pass a law that states that storeowners can religiously discriminate against LGBTQ+ people. So what am I supposed to do? And he wants to repeal Roe v. Wade. Why do I deserve to lose the right to my body?

I’m sorry I wasn’t born a heterosexual, white mail, and trust me, no matter how proud I am of being queer, I really wish I was right now. I’m terrified for the next few years. My heart is heavy for all of the people who will be effected by his policies, and who will feel daggers in their hearts because of the words that he says. I’m with you. I’m here.

So, what? This post is kind of a jumble of words. It’s before seven in the morning, and I honestly feel terrible about this.

I don’t accept his presidency, and I don’t respect his opinion. I am going to work as hard as I can in my life, so that I can stand up to that. And every day, I will stand up and speak out for what’s right. Period.

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Thanks y’all for reading. You all are amazing, and I hope you know that. Sorry I hadn’t posted in a while, but I’m back, so yay!

Have a good morning, and keep speaking up.

Love,

Your Queer Queen ♥

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I’m An Ally

No – not in terms of the LGBTQ+ community. I am here, and I am queer (not using that as an umbrella term but as a self identifier).

Black lives matter.

As a white teenage girl, I have no idea what it feels like to be discriminated against because of my race. It took me a while to come to this conclusion; my boyfriend, who happens to be black, and I would often talk about race and I’d say that I understand because I am discriminated against for my sexuality. He would say that it’s not the same because… it is not. Though you are born with your set race and sexual orientation, and people experience discrimination over both matters, the discrimination is different and I really did not understand.

So why am I bringing this up now? After realizing this and after several more wrongful deaths of black youth and adults in this country, I realized that I’m not doing my part. My part is not to protest. It is not my battle, and specifically pertaining to the Black Lives Matter organization, I have been told that it would take away from the true authenticity of the movement. My part is to declare my support as an ally and help out as I can, however I can, and whenever I can – similarly to how allies of the LGBTQ+ community should be helping out.

White (and/or non-black or African American) silence equals white (and/or non-black or African American) consent.

I am an ally because I will not stand for racism continuing in this country. I will not stand for a country where a SWAT officer will shoot a black mother while her five year old child is in the room with her or where a black man with his hands up will get shot anyways. I will not stand for a country where black children are afraid of getting killed by police officers because they read the news and see these stories on the front page almost every week. I will support this movement until it is done. Period.

R.I.P. to all black lives lost to police violence and/or wrongful killings in 2016 and before.

That is my take on it. I know this isn’t LGBTQ+ related, but it is equally important to our #StopKillingUs movement, and important for me to say. Lastly, I’ve expressed why I am an ally, why are you?

Love,

Your Queer Queen ♥

 

 

 

 

Bringing Brave Trails Back to School

I promised a post about camp, and although it’s long overdue, I’m delivering.

Camp Brave Trails, which I attended for the full two weeks this summer, has changed my life for the (absolute) better. Connecting with so many people with different backgrounds but all sharing a love for the empowerment of the LGBTQ+ community was amazing, challenging, and beautiful. Without phones, I felt as if the camp connected as a whole and everyone became an even better, more educated and empowered leaders. I, for one, learned a lot even though I felt that I knew everything (such a teenager move of me).

This experience led me to think about this very blog post for the past 17 days. (That’s when I published my last one). So sitting by the pool in Hawaii, I realized that I need to do something with my new-found knowledge and all of the power that BT gave me. So I realized that I need to take what camp taught me and bring that into the world. (Make it like camp, right?) So here is my take on how to take Brave Trails back to school:

How to take Brave Trails Back to School (even if you weren’t there):

  1. Connect. I cannot stress how important connecting with people and listening to them and their stories is. Personally, this is how I learned the most at camp – through listening to other people’s experiences and how they deal, or have dealt, with them. We had a workshop called Social Entrepreneurship for both weeks, and the first week was focused on storytelling. Many brave people shared their stories there (for confidentiality’s sake, I can’t share the stories or the names of the people, but they were amazing), and each one changed me and helped me learn in different ways. Connecting with people that have changed you, love you, and care about you is important for your mental health (and probably theirs too). Bonus: It may help you grow as a person as well.
  2. Support. Support and connecting really relate to each other. Everyone needs to remember to support their friends, family, and community through tough times, weather it be personal or something bigger. At Brave Trails, there was a nearly overwhelming sense of support, and each camper, counselor, and director showed extreme compassion for each other. I know that if I had a problem, I could’ve definitely gone to anyone and they would’ve helped me out.
  3. Be vulnerable (it’s okay to cry). This one starts with a more of a personal story. The first few days at camp were rough for me because I wasn’t used to being in an environment with so many kind people that truly were there to support and empower each other. Besides that, I did miss some people that I had been talking to and – not going to lie – I just really wanted to cry for the first few days. I hated crying, especially in front of people. I talked to one of my cabin counselors, and she assured me that it’s okay to cry and that no one would judge me for it. Although this may not be the case in the “real” world, the comfort of everyone saying, “it’s okay to feel what you feel” was what I needed. So I cried. I cried a lot; there were happy tears, overwhelmed tears, sad tears, and it was all okay. I stay with the fact that it’s okay to cry, and everyone should always feel free to feel what they feel.
  4. Empower (yourself and encourage others around you). You can change the world. There are no buts, ifs, or ands. Empowering yourself, saying that you can and you will is so, so important. Reminding others of that is important as well. Brave Trails is a leadership camp. There, we did learn how to empower ourselves (further), especially within the LGBTQ+ community. Stand up for what you believe in and never give up. (Be relentless!)
  5. Slay. No joke: you are queen (or king, or whatever fits). You are in control of yourself and your life. You can do it. You don’t need to conform, and you can be quirky and unique in your own special way. You don’t need to care about what others will think of you, because those that care about you will be right there slaying with you.

I hope everyone (especially my Brave Trails family) liked this post and that you bring Brave Trails – not only back to school – but everywhere you go. This was my personal list to keep in the back of my mind, and there were so many points that I wanted to add but I wanted to keep this post short and sweet. Thank you all for reading this, you’re all beautiful people.

Love,

Your Queer Queen ♥

P.S. – Be brave!

 

 

Stop Killing Us.

 

Bless my fingers – I’ve been trying to write this piece for almost a week now. And lord, has it been hard. Camp Brave Trails felt like I was in a dream for two weeks (It was literally one of the best times of my life.), away from the horrors of the “real”world.

So that’s were I’m going to start off. RIP to the victims of the French terror attacks and every other terror attack that has occurred recently. Their lives were lost too soon. RIP to the victims of any hate crimes, including shootings and victims of racial discrimination, profiling, or otherwise. Some terrible events have occurred in the world, and my heart is heavy for the victims and their families.

Secondly, my heart is heavy for the LGBTQ+ community. On July 13, Deeniquia Dodds was taken off of life support after being shot on July 4th. She became the 15th trans person to be murdered this year in the United States alone. In case you’re unaware – that’s 15 too many. Bless her soul, and everyone else’s.

It is 2016 and I am tired of hearing about LGBTQ+ people getting murdered because we live in a completely hetero-normative world (Not throwing shade at allies, just being honest.). America – we need a reality check. It is not your business who other people love, kiss, or have sex with. It is not your business if someone’s gender identity does not align with their biological sex. It is not your business if someone was born a woman or man but had the wrong genitals. It is not your business. Period.

Stop killing us.

We are not a sin. We are not a crime. We are not sluts. We are not evil. We are not faggots. We are not terrible people. We are not child molesters or pedophiles. We are not murderers. We are not a phase. We will not spread “our disease”. We are not fetishes. We are not weak. We are not hateful. We do not want to hurt you. We are not scary. We are not closed minded. We are not bullet magnets. We are not targets.

We are blessings. We are lovers. We are good. We are strong. We will carry on. We are just trying to use the bathroom. We are being ourselves. We are full of pride. We are peaceful. We are here to help. We are open minded. We will not hurt you. We are us and we respect you. We are queer but still here and we are not going anywhere. We were born with it, babe. (Lady Gaga)

Period.

There is nothing else that needs to be said but this: Homophobia is social ignorance.

Thanks for listening. I’ll be sure to post again soon about camp, safe spaces, etc. I just wanted to bring this up first. If you have any questions, please comment. To leave off with a question: How do you show your pride?

Love,

Your Queer Queen ♥

 

 

 

Changing the World, One (Big) Goal at a Time

Last week I read an interesting Business Insider article called “25 Simple Things to Give Up If You Want to Succeed” (or as I wish it was called, “25 Simple Things to Gain To Be More Successful). You can see the list here, and I strongly encourage that you read it (especially if you want to understand the rest of this post).

Thinking about the article later, I reflected on the habits of mine now that the list said to change. For example, number 14 talks about goals and states: “Small goals yield small results; big goals yield big (and sometimes huge) results,” which is basically saying, dream big, or make your goals big rather than small. I was perplexed because I’ve always made small goals anticipating that I would achieve bigger goals, or end goals, later. So, in all my confusion about this specific item on the list, I started trying it (as well as some others). Already, since I read this one article, I realized how much my attitude and overall outlook towards my life and my goals have improved.

So, of course I will relate this to my “queer-ness”. On Sunday, I embark on a two week life-changing journey (in other words, Camp Brave Trails) that will help me grow as a person and in the LGBTQ+ community. This camp that I’m going to isn’t any ordinary camp, but an LGBTQ+ leadership camp made to inspire the next generation of leaders in the LGBTQ+ community and beyond. I cannot even say how elated I am to be able to participate in such an amazing experience, and I can’t wait to share my knowledge and experiences with all of you when I return.

So relating to the Business Insider article: dream big. I’m going into camp hoping to learn new things as well as share ideas of my own. I hope to bring these ideas back, like I said earlier, and not only to the blog, but my school, community, and the world. I want to have a voice – to be able to help people and make a (big!) difference in the world (or even change it). That is my big goal. Take that, number 14!

So, I guess I may have covered quite some ground with this post, but here are the two takeaways that I hope you’ll focus on. One, this list is actually no-joke. It’s crazy; I get I’m a teenager who gets inspired by a lot of things because you know, “hormones and whatnot”, but I really encourage you check this out. Maybe it will inspire people to dream – and think – big, just like me. Two, you can change the world. As long as you believe you can do it, you can. And if you want it, make it a “big goal”. Then focus on it, and it will come true.

So, I’ll be offline after Sunday, but I will be back on the 16th of July. I am so excited to return having a new ideas in my brain and a bunch of new love in my heart. Thanks for reading!

Love,

Your Queer Queen ♥

The Love Community

Today, on June 26th, 2016, we celebrate the one year anniversary of marriage equality in the United States. Since then, over 100,000 same sex couples have been legally married in the US alone. Also and unfortunately, since then, there have been a number of hate crimes against the LGBTQ+ community and their allies (RIP to all of the victims of the Pulse nightclub shooting and all others lost in hate crimes like this one). Today, we honor all those lost in these hate crimes while celebrating freedoms that we as a community and country have gained. Although we have a long ways to go, today is for celebration and remembrance in the most positive light, and I hope everyone enjoys the ending of pride month all around the world.

As pride month ends, pride does not. Every single person, LGBTQ+ or not, has value and meaning. In fact, a shirt being sold at SF pride says: “Pride for racial, economic, and social justice”. Pride is the essence of equality, not only for the LGBTQ+ community, but for all communities and bodies of people. Pride is about support and love for one another, and although it is focused on the LGBTQ+ community, it is a time of acceptance for everyone, no matter what color, size, shape, ability, etc. Weighing importance of one group over another should not be tolerated, and all of us need to watch how we treat others and love others, not only at this time, but all of the time.

So, all of the serious stuff set aside, let’s talk about that “positive light” that I mentioned before. Yesterday, I walked around Civic Center Plaza and got glitter thrown all over me whilst listening to blaring music and being surrounded by many kind souls. Everyone there shared the goal of celebrating each other in all of our similarities and differences. I saw plenty of fabulously dressed – and undressed -people, got dressed in a bunch of rainbow swag, and talked to so many bright people. I saw tears shed out of happiness, and a community gathered together in love – not fear or hate. This is a difficult time to do that: people are worried about the global economy, the presidential election coming in the fall, terrorism, war, and other frightening events that are happening in the world. And before pride, I personally was worried about these things and personal things too. Throughout the day, after I arrived in the beautiful city of San Francisco, I felt the tenseness in my shoulders fall and a smile spread wide across my face. I danced and sang to the music and felt accepted as a member of the LGBTQ+ community, but also the world. So, this positive light: weather or not you went to pride, whenever you are stressed, straight, gay, bi, black, white, whatever – remember this. Somewhere in the world, you are accepted. Even if it feels like the weight of the world lies upon the shoulders, one day, it will be better. The world keeps changing, but love will always be there. And in the world is a community that loves you.

So today, instead of calling the LGBTQ+ or pride community by that name, I’m calling it the love community. It consists of lesbian people, gay people, trans people, bisexual people, queer people, genderqueer people, ally people, black people, white people, latino people, asian people, people people, and every person who has love in their hearts and heads. Everyone who wants to see the world in a positive light for today and days to come.

So though this was maybe a bit serious and maybe a bit cheesy, I want everyone to enjoy the end of pride month to the end of this year to the end of your life and past that. Look at the world in a positive light: when you do that, the world will shine this light back on you. Dance like no one is watching and sing like no one is singing, and of course, live like everyone is loving. Thanks for reading.

Love,

Your Queer Queen 

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